Monthly Archives: September 2014

‘Yes’ Vote and ‘No’ Vote; Catastrophisation, Scotland and Independence

Flag of ScotlandEarly Friday morning we will find out whether Scotland gains complete independence or stays within the Union. It is a really exciting time and a sign we live in a democracy for there to be such a vote taking place.  I lived for quite a few years in Scotland. It is a wonderful place and I can completely understand why many in Scotland may want independence. I now live in London and it does feel sad Scotland may split off. I wonder though at the catastrophisation that is going on.

The ‘Yes’ vote and the ‘No’ vote. Will things will be better for Scotland or will Scotland not be able to afford to go on its own? Will the rest of the UK be then pushed into a recession and left with the pieces of a difficult ‘divorce’. I know people who have said if there is a ‘Yes’ vote then they will leave Scotland. Or those who said if there is a ‘No’ vote then they would go into a deep depression.

Not everyone will get the outcome they want but in the end, as in any upset most tend to adapt and then change. Some though will leave. Some will drown their upset in drink. It is a choice we have. This is the same in many other areas of our lives. Do we stay or do we leave? What will benefit our lives the most? This is a once in a life-time decision.

If only we did this more often in our own lives; to vote daily on the important choices and decisions we have within our own lives. To know we never need to say ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ all the time. We can change our minds and we never have to follow the herd.

Meanwhile I wait to see. Will I need to bring my passport with me when I next go north? Will there be border controls? What will life be like after the vote? Will we all really be poorer or is this really political catatrophisation at work?

©2014 Yasmin

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Keeping Mum and the icloud

Oh dear. Sometimes there are certain rules in life that are often forgotten. I forget them often myself. I remember as a child being told – if I was doing something I could not tell my mother – then I should not be doing it. The second thing in this internet age is that there is no such thing as privacy.


What to keep on your icloud – Keep only what mum can see…..

I wonder about the photographs that were put on icloud and have been recently hacked into. This was where some famous female celebrities photographs were redistributed online.

Is this something they could talk about and show their mothers? I do not see to see any photographs of nude men being mentioned amongst the collection of hacked photographs. Someone showed me some of the photographs and I remember thinking – what was going on? There is no such thing as privacy online. This exhibitionism and proliferation of selfies can be so unsafe. Anything that can be kept and used again can be used in a way none of us may plan. These days of webcams. Security cameras. Digital information. We are public everywhere we go.

I am so sorry to see this. Is this a gender thing where women have been socialized to see themselves in such a way or are men far better in not putting anything online? Or is it that hackers were mainly male and only looking for female nudes and there really are photographs of men too in such poses too? Are women too trustful and do not consider their own safety and security? If so, that is so sad and it must have been so traumatising for these individuals to see photographs which were assumed to be private – splashed online.  That would be such a painful Wu Chi feeling to experience. This feeling of loss, embarassment and upset. The wanting to disappear into emptiness. So maybe there is no such thing as privacy and maybe mum was right.

©2014 Yasmin

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