New Years day itself, the 1st of January, begins tomorrow for some of us. For others, in different parts of the world, it has already started. It is a day and a date. The New Year of the Gregorian calendar is very similar to the Roman calendar. In 1751, England and Wales had changed the New Year from the 25th March to the 1st January. Can you imagine if it were still celebrated on the 25th of March? Would it make a difference? Would we be having Easter eggs and New Years day within the same time frame?
Meanwhile, I shall celebrate the New Years Eve this evening as New Years day has not changed again and is still set for the 1st of January.
Research on New Years resolutions show that New Year Resolutions often fail. Why is that? Continue reading
I was watching surfers in San Diego. This was the first time I could see people do it ‘live’. I had often imagined surfers as seeming to go up and down constantly on a board and never spending much time in the water. An imagined wave after wave of thrills and rides. The truth is really something different. A great deal of time is spent in the water, bobbing around, waiting astride their boards for a wave to come along. Continue reading
So here we are. Another New Years Eve and a New Year coming upon us. Older and wiser? That is always a hard one to tell. Wisdom is not something we can touch and see but we know it when we ‘see’ it. So many people view success as having money, even collecting friends on Facebook, a new car, possessions, and even titles. I often think of it in terms of awareness and wisdom. There have been years that I have had the cars, the house and the money but felt very empty and other times when I really learned so much and felt so much more awake and alive with what the year brought and I brought to the year. Now why not also have the two? Wisdom and awareness does not only belong to those in poverty, spirituality and pain but it can be there for everyone. I wish you a Wise, Happy and Prosperous New Year for 2013……
I went to one of the well known furniture superstores the other week. There was a section called “Returns”. It seems you can return things if they have been unopened and unused if they are returned within 90 days with your till receipt. Some people use returns in stores after using the item. Some businesses such as those for photographic shoots depend upon this returns policy as it would cost too much to buy the item outright for only one shoot.
I was wondering if there was something you could return what would it be?
Would it be your partner/spouse? Your pet? Your children? Your life up to now/a certain age?
Funny thing resolutions; they often get forgotten and then seem to be recycled and used again and again, year after year. It is almost as if resolutions are eco-friendly and have a “Do not dispose of “ sticker on them. What I am going to suggest is that we have not a resolution but to have a “solution”. It is about time to have some changes set in place in our lives. After all, the human race is meant to be an intelligent people. IQ scores have risen over the last two decades. People are meant to be smarter but a new years resolution does not seem to have much staying power. Here therefore is what I propose for your New Years Solutions.
There were some positive reactions to the riots by those who were involved and affected by them. These are behaviours and thoughts we can all learn from.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2011/aug/10/london-riots-youtube-victim-malaysian. A young man named Asyraf Haziq from Malaysia who had been mugged twice. The first time he had been knocked off his bicycle and had it stolen. His jaw had been broken by the punch. He then sat dazed on the pavement. In the video you can see him being brought to his feet and in a display that sinks so low, those ‘good samaritans’ hang about to mug him (his second time experience of being mugged in such a short space of time) of the contents of his back-pack.
It was his reaction that was interesting. He was not angry, nor did he feel aggrieved. His ‘explanatory style’ was far more positive. He had said after the double mugging how he was sorry for the muggers and had been surprised as to how young they were. He seemed to be genuinely sorry for the people that mugged him. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FGfZ2ommI0 A positive explanatory style has more positive outcomes for recovery in terms of mental and physical health. Continue reading
It was with sadness I read as to how Columbo died this week. Peter Falk was often known as the actor who played Columbo and the catch-phrase ‘one more thing’ came up often in his series.He was by now 83 years old and had lived a long and eventful life. I suppose I was sad I never got to meet him. Was there a Columbo fan club? Why had I never set out to meet him? I realised it was because I had at some level assumed he would live forever. TV characters often seem to do that. Continue reading