I just love relationships. They are so complicated yet so simple. It is never boring and will never get monotonous. Why do we so often make things more complicated than they really need to be? One of the most important things we can do is to be direct and open with our partner. Yet, how many people can say that they are direct with their partner let alone themselves? Can anyone be direct with another if they do not know the self? Ourself, yourself,oneself; So many selves – wise people have said ‘know thyself’ but never have directed us as to how to be direct with ourselves. Why is it when we ask ourselves questions the answers seem to be to other questions and not the one we ask? It is as though we are a conduit for other people’s questions and not our own at first. It takes awhile but with practice the questions become our own and not others. The answers then become our own. This is when we are ready for relationships with others. The relationship first begins with ourself……it needs to start with ‘moi’ (French for ‘me’). How do we do ‘moi’ though when so often we compare and contrast with others and even ourselves? So many co-dependency issues start and end with not being able to draw the boundaries between others and ourselves. It is through laying down boundaries and being more aware of what we do and how we do it and why we do it in the world can we then ‘do the moi’
©2010 Yaz
Dr Yaz Headley 