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Your Acceptance Speech

BAFTAI was watching the BAFTA’s (British Academy of Film and Television Arts) tonight. There are awards for all the different categories. Best Director, Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Supporting Actress and more. They all go to the podium afterwards and then give their thanks, give their acceptance speech. If you were to go up the podium for your life now, your life as it is. Who would you be thanking or blaming? What events would you be ascribing your life turns too?

Best event?

A monumental presence?

Greatest Generosity?

Greatest Effort?

Unflinching quest for truth?

When you raised the bar?

Best New Script? (When you did something out of the ordinary)

Best Costume? (Gives a reason to wear a great suit or outfit…and to look good)

And every year there is another acceptance speech…..what will it be next year?

©2013 Yasmin

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Expressing Silence

I recently spoke to a sound engineer on producing audios. The world of audio and sound is really that of a another world. When tracks do not flow from one song to another, it is not just about sound fading in and out from one to the other but also it is about recorded sounds. When silence is on the outside it sounds different from the silence which is produced in the recording booth. The silence produced in a recording booth are more compatible with the sounds produced in a recording booth. The silent sounds from outside the recording booth would be jarring and discordant to the sounds produced in the recording booth. The expression – what happens in Las Vegas stays in Las Vegas also applies here ; What is produced and mixed in the recording studio really does belong in the recording studio – sounds and silence.

There are courses and workshops galore on expressing your true self, finding your authentic self, whole processes of expressing anger and feelings. The problem is not just the voice but also the silence. Often the voice and the silence are mass marketed. We are often socialized to express the acceptable sounds and silence. Our true voice and our true happiness comes from the sounds and the silence that have to mix and interplay not just with ourselves but also with the people and the world we live in. The world has so many sounds and silences. The constant chitter chatter that goes on. No wonder it can be tough to voice ourselves – we also have to consider the silence too. To be with ourselves and our own silence is where we truly find peace.

©2013 Yasmin

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What do you do with junk mail?

I was just looking through my junk mail. Sometimes good mail gets redirected there and needs to be rescued. Sometimes, I even have this strange hope there is some hidden gem hidden there. How odd that I could think that. Maybe a friend has tried to contact me. Maybe I have accidentally put some mail into junk. Looking at the junk mail we can see what fears we may all have. These are the fears the spammers are hoping to trigger. What gets triggered often brings on a behavioural reaction of a hoped for purchase of an item or service. Fears of loneliness, poverty, social inadequacy, unemployment…..the list goes on. The junk mail is the junk of our lives. It feeds and grows Junk Mailoff our fears. Continue reading

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Running on empty, self-care and the 7 servicing checks

running on Empty Today, running on empty seems to be a way of life. We keep ourselves awake with energy drinks, coffee, tea and energy foods. Where does the energy go, and for us to now need to consume energy in the form of liquids and solids? How did people manage years ago before they were invented? Were people just not getting out of bed ? What happened to our own internal energy that really keeps us going?  The motivation and the passion? How do we fill up at the petrol station with super motivation and run our own bodies for peak performance?

Self-care seems such a basic concept but even the car needs servicing – why not do the same for ourselves?

The following are the 7 service checks which helps you run smoothly. Continue reading

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Our Personal Hurricanes

Lance Armstrong donations

How life changes. Over the last week we have had a hurricane. A hurricane is not just a simple storm but one that blows over a low pressure area, and the circling winds seem to pick up more and more energy. This energy, the disturbance in the atmosphere, the instability such as a front, a depression, or a wind shear. All these factors, the energy, moisture, upper level winds and a trigger going upwards will blow into a tropical storm that can grow into a hurricane. So many factors come into making a storm into a hurricane.

A seemingly innocuous sounding hurricane named ‘Sandy’ wrecked havoc and destruction in the East Coast of the United States. I have a friend named Sandy and she is a friendliest and most personable person I know; so unlike her namesake hurricane. So much can change in such a short time. So many have died and been injured and destroyed in its wake. It really is awful and it will take ages for some to recover from it. There was a smaller one in the UK in the 80s and even today I meet people who still remember and suffered loss from it.

Another hurricane, a personal hurricane I was thinking of was what had happened recently to Lance Armstrong, a professional road-racing cyclist. He had also started and made a huge contribution to charity after he himself also suffered and recovered from cancer. Just recently he had been stripped of his 7 titles and wins of the Tour de France for being a “serial cheat who led the most sophisticated, professionalized and successful doping programme the sport has ever seen”. So dramatic has his rise and fall been. It must be so painful at many levels for him and those who love him to be so close to what went on. Continue reading

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Endings in The Olympics and in Life….

Hands up those who remember the ending in the Olympics?

Hands up those who remember the Opening Ceremony of the Olympics? Umm, there seems to be more hands up for the Opening ceremony.

This is often the preferred way in life too. Tickets for the Opening ceremony for both the Olympics and the Paralympics cost more than the Closing Ceremony. More effort was also put into the Opening Ceremony of the Olympics than the Closing Ceremony. The closing ceremony was a series of last minute invites to some pop stars. Some bands had been only asked to do it a few weeks before, but the opening ceremony had months of preparation involved in it.

The Paralympics are on now. The same things will play out too. I often find that clients can have wonderful beginnings but then things seem to taper out for some and for others they do very well. Most though do find endings harder to do and often rather try and avoid it. Some have paid me for the session but not turned up, others seem to cancel and cancel and avoid it. Continue reading

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Badminton in the Olympics and on Losing on Purpose

I thought the badminton teams being disqualified for intentionally losing their matches was interesting. The players involved were China’s world champions Wang Xiaoli and Yu Yang, Indonesia’s Greysia Polii and Meiliana Jauhari and two South Korean pairs – Jung Kyung-eun and Kim Ha-na, and Ha Jung-eun and Kim Min-jung.

If you watch the matches on video you will see it is as though they have never played badminton before. They keep serving into the net and their rallies (if any) are short.

http://www.cbssports.com/olympics/blog/eye-on-olympics/19701953/video-badminton-players-throw-match-disqualified-from-olympics

The crowd are booing and telling them to go off. Anyone who has gone to the Olympics in London knows tickets are expensive, it takes a lot of effort to obtain a ticket, then to travel and make your way there. I know I would have been very irritated and upset to watch a match I could have myself played far better at.

But why lose a match on purpose? Here there was a benefit in losing to the other team. All had qualified but the winner would then play China which was the stronger team. This was part of a strategy in the round-robins which had been newly set up and the teams were trying not to play China and were working to be relegated to a match with a less superior opponent in the semi-final. Continue reading

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