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Keeping Mum and the icloud

Oh dear. Sometimes there are certain rules in life that are often forgotten. I forget them often myself. I remember as a child being told – if I was doing something I could not tell my mother – then I should not be doing it. The second thing in this internet age is that there is no such thing as privacy.


What to keep on your icloud – Keep only what mum can see…..

I wonder about the photographs that were put on icloud and have been recently hacked into. This was where some famous female celebrities photographs were redistributed online.

Is this something they could talk about and show their mothers? I do not see to see any photographs of nude men being mentioned amongst the collection of hacked photographs. Someone showed me some of the photographs and I remember thinking – what was going on? There is no such thing as privacy online. This exhibitionism and proliferation of selfies can be so unsafe. Anything that can be kept and used again can be used in a way none of us may plan. These days of webcams. Security cameras. Digital information. We are public everywhere we go.

I am so sorry to see this. Is this a gender thing where women have been socialized to see themselves in such a way or are men far better in not putting anything online? Or is it that hackers were mainly male and only looking for female nudes and there really are photographs of men too in such poses too? Are women too trustful and do not consider their own safety and security? If so, that is so sad and it must have been so traumatising for these individuals to see photographs which were assumed to be private – splashed online.  That would be such a painful Wu Chi feeling to experience. This feeling of loss, embarassment and upset. The wanting to disappear into emptiness. So maybe there is no such thing as privacy and maybe mum was right.

©2014 Yasmin


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Depression, Anxiety and the Cones

Dog Cone by YasminI was just watching a dog who had just had an operation. He had a cone wrapped around his head to stop him licking his wounds. The cone was there to help him heal. After three days you could see the dog had adapted to sleeping, eating, drinking and playing with the cone on. I wonder if the dog knew it was only temporary and would be coming off after a week? Did the dog think it would be permanent?

It made me think of people with Depression and Anxiety. Depression and Anxiety is one of the most pernicious diseases of the 21st century. 20% of people are at one time or the other suffering from depression this year and every year. Continue reading

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Happy Birthday to you this Christmas


Christmas started in the shops at the end of October. Shops were crowded with people buying gifts. Then there are the boxing-day sales due tomorrow.

Today though is Christmas. Christmas is such an interesting time. It brings out so many different and varied feelings in different people. The basic message though for Christians is about Christ who was born, the message he brought the world and the gift of his life for mans salvation.

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Returns and Choice

I went to one of the well known furniture superstores the other week. There was a section called “Returns”. It seems you can return things if they have been unopened and unused if they are returned within 90 days with your till receipt. Some people use returns in stores after using the item. Some businesses such as those for photographic shoots depend upon this returns policy as it would cost too much to buy the item outright for only one shoot.

I was wondering if there was something you could return what would it be?

Would it be your partner/spouse? Your pet? Your children? Your life up to now/a certain age?

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Getting Close without getting lost in a committed relationship?

I have invited Mara Fisher of from the US to guest blog on my blog for your pleasure: below is a blog piece…Mara is a very experienced and wise therapist..

Getting close without getting lost while in a committed relationship?

Ever wonder how to know if you are being intrusive? It is much easier to get when someone else is being intrusive. Sometimes that can be confusing as well.

When we are in a committed relationship our confusion with boundaries becomes most evident. It can be quite confusing. Is it okay if I tell my partner what I think? Will I be invading their space? How come I get upset when my partner tells me what he/she thinks? If I want something done a certain way am I invading my partners boundaries. These questions can go on and on. Understanding our own boundaries is quite complex and worth the effort.

I have noticed that all working relationships have some degree of haze surrounding the boundaries of the persons within it. Relationships are alive and the people in them often overlap in order to achieve comfortable levels of intimacy. Relationships take on a life of their own separate and apart from the I or the you.

The question many of us ask, is how can I tell if I am getting lost within the life of my relationship? And yet some of us do keep our sense of self and do not get lost in the forest of our relationship. While others forget to leave breadcrumbs when they go into a relationship and so they get lost. Continue reading

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Funny thing resolutions; they often get forgotten and then seem to be recycled and used again and again, year after year.  It is almost as if resolutions are eco-friendly and have a “Do not dispose of “ sticker on them.  What I am going to suggest is that we have not a resolution but to have a “solution”.  It is about time to have some changes set in place in our lives.  After all, the human race is meant to be an intelligent people.  IQ scores have risen over the last two decades.  People are meant to be smarter but a new years resolution does not seem to have much staying power.  Here therefore is what I propose for your New Years Solutions.

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Depression, Suicide, Gary Speed and Football.

I was saddened to hear today of a suicide by a football manager named Gary Speed.  Gary Speed had the looks, the money, the life and was fit and healthy. Many are left surprised as to how he could have killed himself. Football is often called “The Beautiful Game” and I know many who love the game so much they will watch every match they can. I have many nephews who ardently follow their favourite teams, know so much about what is going on in football, scream at matches and dress up excitedly to see a match in their teams colours.

Gary Speed was 42 years of age, had two children and was married. He was doing well and had also been a successful footballer for Wales. Many of the comments being made in the press and on the news was as to how;  it was unexpected, he seemed happy, and it seemed to be impossible to have imagined the man who had everything to have ever committed suicide.

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November 28, 2011 · 11:56 am